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July 14, 2009

Hug your mom's tightly

Each day, little Sadie perfects the art of working, teetering on near collision with anything in her path.  Maggie grows more beautiful with passing day, those eyes, how they melt your heart.  Ty continues to stand on his own two feet, he is confident and at ease in this world, ready for every challenge.  I enjoy it, I cherish it, I want to share it.  I call my gal pals, I reach out to my MIL, I subject my father to every detail and although each cheers their successes along with me, there is a nagging from deep within.  What is it, that unsettling feeling that something is off?  The answer washes over me like a tidal wave, she is missing all of this.  My mom.  As you all know, I lost my mom to cancer nearly 4 years ago.  Even as I type it, I can't believe it has been that long.  This world that I live in, this crazy life that she knows nothing about.  The thought of it punches me right in the gut.  I miss her so terribly, there really are no words to express it.  I wish she could see their smiles, I want to call her and ask if little Maggie is a carbon copy of me like everyone says.  I want her to bake with them, I want them to run to her warm embrace and know that she was and is their biggest fan.  More than that, I want her for me.  I want her to know my dear friends intimately, I wish she could witness the incredible father and husband by Chad is, I wish she could see my mother my children and I wish I could see her pride at the little family we are.  And sometimes, I just want to call her with my struggles, I want her to hold me and tell me that all will be right with the world.  4 years is a long time and yet at times, the loss so raw, so real, at times the grief can still take my breathe away.  We sometimes think that our job as mamas is so time senstive, the needs of our children are most important as they toddle and learn to walk or as we see they off to kindergarten.  I stand at the other end and know that as a 32 year old woman, I need my mom more than ever.  I wish her grace was still surrounding me and that she could still bestow so many lessons on me.  I miss her with all my heart each and every day.  Hug your kids tighly and your moms tighter.

Thanks you Everetts!

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Well welcome home to the brave and dirty.  Mol - I admire so much your dedication to making memories.  The Parnells on the other hand did no roughing at all.  In fact, we spent the weekend lounging at The Everett cabin in Laura Ashley sheets!

We arrived on Saturday around lunch time.  As soon as we stepped out of the van, the red carpet magically appeared and we were welcomed with open arms.  That's just how Craig and Michelle are - so warm.  Their cabin wasperfect.  It is a place that feels like you could stay forever.  Once Grandpa Emberley's, it is an old, loved cabin that still contains memories from days gone by. 

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We spent about 30 hours, eating, drinking, laughing, boating, eating, drinking and more laughing.  The boys moved in and lived like it was their place.  Kate and Brooke, The Everett girls shared their cabin, sidewalk chalk and even their John Deere Gator.  We ate blueberries, we watch deer graze.  We sipped wine, we played at the beach.  We parented and occasionally we turned a blind eye so that the kids could let loose too.

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The kids were so, so well behaved and Kate and Hudson (Kate Hudson) chatted among the oaks like they were 20.  It was absolutely adorable.  The kids mimicked the relationship we four adults share. They said little and felt lots. 

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Sunday greeted us with a warm day, bacon and eggs and a picnic on the lake.  Tarya, I only I wished I would have made your slush recipe - it would have been the perfect compliment to Tenderloin Garlic Sausage, Mozzarella Cheese Squares and Rice Crackers.  Don't get me wrong, we feasted too.  But it was so nice to eat little meals all day long.  Michelle and I were an unbelievable team that worked so seamlessly together we found ourselves feet up in loungers with hot coffee Sunday morning as every thing and everyone had just what they needed.

And while I was working on my tan, my baby sis stayed at our place, and took care of our pooch.  Thank you Crys!  You know, this morning as she and I were catching up, I found it adorable to listen to her run over her weekend.  She groomed and watered my plants like they were her own.  I actually think often how amazing she is and look forward to the day that she and Miss Gracie have their own house where they can plants whatever they choose.

All around the weekend was just perfect.  We relaxed more than we have in a really long time.  The irony with that is that my little Gage slept snug as a bug right in between Brent and I (in the lap of luxury).  Both he and Hudson fell asleep in their pjays intertwined arms and legs.  It was a sight my heart will never forget.  Perfect.  Thank you Everetts.

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Tomorrow I shall update you on my naturopath - it was eye opening.  That's all for now.  I shall close by saying that the other ya-ya must be doing fine.  For she sent me a video and a photo from The Kenny Chesney concert.  I was drooling with envy even though I couldn't open the attachment!  Happy Trails Mrs. Chesney.

July 12, 2009

One tired and filthy ya-ya has returned

This ya-ya has arrived home.  There really is no place like it!  We had a hardworking, tiring, no relaxing utterly amazing camping vacation.  Camping with 3 children 4 and under is not for the faint of heart.  It is dirty, so, so, so dirty.  It is non-stop, on the go from morning til night, moving seamlessly from one activity to the next.  It was our best vacation EVER!  We arrived in Blue Lake unscathed after our 3 and a half hour road trip (no stops, don't give kids enough credit, they were amazing.)  Within minutes, I realized that my little tiny princess is going to be all dirt, all the time.  She is in that funny learning to walk stage.  Walking and then falling into the dirt, the pine needles, the sand.  It doesn't bother her one bit, (more to eat down there) but me, I do not claim to be a neat freak but this filthiness took some real ajusting to.  (Sorry all you Norwex types, no matter what fancy cloths and sprays you have, your kids are still just plain dirty!!)

The city limits must confine their spirits, they were different kids from the moment we arrived in the great wild.  Was it me or was it them?  Maybe both.  We laughed all the time.  We looked at things at a snail's pace and level for that matter.  I saw the beauty of our surroundings from their very short levels and wow, what a marvel it was.  I watched my Ty grow into a little man.  He ventured off on his bike, up and down the road all on his own.  That ear-to-ear smile he wore was the makings of a proud mama, his independence literally bringing tears to my eyes.  He thought the biggest adventure was the little path he wore through the woods on his way to the outhouse.  I stood in the trailer, despite his instructions, and watched every step to ensure his safe return.  Where has the time gone?  He sat and listened intently at the junior naturalist critter dipping session we attended together, confident in what an invertebrate was by the end.  We hiked, he led the way with his little map.  I watched as he warmed up to the other kids on our bay and always seemed to engage them in his imaginative adventures.  He thinks he needs me to strike up the friendships but I was in awe of his confidence as he drew others in.  Really, what a beautiful thing it is to watch our kids shine. 

My Maggie, strong willed, stubborn, and one of my biggest joys.  I would not trade the week I spent with her for all the riches in the world.  She seemed to come alive the further we got from home.  Adventure seeking is in her blood.  She loved being amongst her family, only us to play with.  I took her to the potty each and every time, Daddy wouldn't do this time.  We ran up and down the roads in search of the perfect outhouse (is there one?) Yes, a button flush type, not unlike an airplane, this is the "pretty princess bathroom" and each time was our special time.  I watched that little angel run with her heels kicking her little bum trying her darndest to keep up with her brother.   I saw her antics for what they are, love for her siblings, the way her little voice climbs up octaves when she talks to her baby "Sades" and the way that each time Ty opens his mouth, the same words come out hers.  She idolizes that little man in her life.  I shared a bed with my Maggie and Have never been much for sleeping with my kids but there it was magical.  Her big eyes closed after a big day of adventures can melt my heart everytime.  I laid as close to her as possible and treasured those precious moments of stirring before the next day started. 

Baby Sades, oh Baby Sades, I thought you were to be the easy going girl in this family.  I may eat my words (am already).  She didn't like being dirty either and has now moved fully into walking.  Trouble is on the horizon as there are no barriers anymore especially, when there is a world to see out your front door.  We pulled more pine cones and needles from her mouth than I can count.  The road was no obstacle when trying to reach the neighbors 2 golden retrievers.  She's a people watcher and sat contentedly in her stroller, bike carrier or backpack while we wandered aimlessly through the campgrounds, smiles all around for this lady.  I hold tight to all the "last times" with Sadie as there are no more babes to come, even the middle of the night ones (of which there are many).  Sadie did not collapse at nightfall like the others, it revved her up, if anything.  I spent every night trying to coax her back to sleep with bottles, rocking, ssshhhhing, 12oclock, 2 oclock, 4 oclock sometimes getting up for the day by 4:15.  Was she cold, cutting a tooth, lonely, in her playpen on the bed at the end of the trailer, did she hear a bear, a bird, a squirrel?  Who knows?  What I do know is that even if I was up for hours each night ( no exaggeration), I held her and rocked her and watched her fall asleep in my arms, feeling full and nostalgic knowing those moments may never come again.  By next year, she will be in a bed and not so dependent on mama.  Chad took over by sun up and braved the cold with her nestled in the bike carrier, logging 20 miles in 3 mornings.  He even made a Tim's run to Dryden just to get her to sleep a bit more, nothing like a 5 am start to the day to get you going.  This little angel was worth every sleepless night.

We have returned, tired, camped out for the year.  Our clothes smell of fire and are sticking together with marshmallow goop.  The kids are still dirty but we're working on it.  Would I do it again?  In a heartbeat.  As mom's, we spend time multi tasking, always thinking ahead to the next step, making sure we have dotted our "i's and crossed our "t's.  Not while camping.  The entire trip from start to finish was about them.  Every second, every moment spent playing and fully engaged, not cleaning or organizing.  I think I understand my children better and I LOVE the deep level on which I got to know each of them.  My hubby, well, that's another story.   Never knowing what Sadie had in store for us each night meant not even any snuggles around the fire.  We were as tired by sundown as the kids and as cold (damn summer, lows of 6 some nights, should have brought touques).  We looked at the familes around us and saw what camping will become in years to come.  The parents sitting reading around the fire, enjoying a chat while their teens take off with friends on bikes.  Won't that be the day?  For now, I will just treasure this starting point with our 3 little bears, thankful to be in nature with the ones I love.

July 10, 2009

Do you want to light the way????

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It's strange to think of my two ya-ya's both on the road.  I give The Kaatz and Gompf families so much credit.  It is amazing and brave that they take family holidays - road trips - with little ones.  Kudos - your children will be better for it and forever changed.  "They say" families that play together stay together.  Here is to the beginning of many happy holidays!

Today I am off to meet a Naturopathic Doctor.  I am excited.  I feel as though my health continues to creep up on my list of things that are ever evolving in my life.  Also on that list is my middle sister Jay (jen, Jenny, JJ).  I have mentioned before that she doesn't read this blog so it is totally free speech.  But, I would say that she and I have always been so close and yet in the past 4 years, we haven't seen enough of each other.  We have almost chatted every day this week, not about very much and yet just hearing her voice makes my heart happy.

Also making me happy these days is my freelance writing.  Today I submitted my 3rd article.  Surprise!!! the subject of my piece loved it!  Yay! and it looks as though I willhave more work, this time on a Winnipeg magazine that focuses on food.  This little piggy will be in her wheel house there.

Friday already hey?  I have a few appointments today but a free evening to chill out with my boys - all 3!  My cowboys has returned home.  Tomorrow however, we are off to Falcon Lake to spend the night with Craig, Michelle, Kate and Brooke!  We are thrilled!  Craig and Michelle are crazy fun to be with and crazy hospitable.

Now, before I jump start this Friday...I have a request for all of you.  As an employee of vitamin water and Coke, I am following the road to the 2010 Olympics.  If you are interested in being part of the Olympic Torch Relay, click here to register.  Then click on Road to 2010.  Choose your preferred day to run or walk (it is in January and might be cold) and then fill out Brandi Parnell partner Mosaic to track referrals.  The deadline is Monday but I think it could be pretty amazing being a part of this - definitely one for the books to say you carried the Olympic Torch.

Happy Anniversay to my BIL & SIL - Blaine & Lis.

Happy weekend mommas.  Thanks for all of your comments and encouragement to keep on bloggin.

July 09, 2009

To Beautiful Women

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As I lay in bed last night, I marveled at the spirit of women.  It is remarkable to me how women from all different places in life with very different life paths, can come together to laugh, to empathize and to rally around one another.

Last night myself, Nik, Tricia and Wendy had dinner on a patio.  It was perfect.  And yet, we all brought such differences to the table.  It is that spirit that unites amazing women, women who are going in the same direction and women who rise to the occasion each day.

Clearly Wendy is going through the most in terms of life changes but yet we could all relate to various aspects of joy and pain from all of our lives.  We laughed about just how we have gotten to this place in our lives.  We laughed at what brought us together at that place at that time.  We marveled at how much love and joy and pain women endure the second they become mothers and how strange it is that we can speak to that instant of motherhood but cannot expect any one who is not to understand.

We reflected on relationships that have made us who we are.  Some laughed about old flames (I don't have any! lol!).  We laughed about our real experiences with our babies and our parents.

Brent and I have been together a long time.  We are very real with one another and keep each other in check.  Wendy mentioned how she admired that about us.  In fact, she said that Tricia, Nik and myself all had relationships like that with our husbands.  Perhaps that is what women bring to marriages.  The same qualities that we teach and learn from our girlfriends. 

The most important is being real - to yourself, to your gal pals and if you are fortunate enough to have a great man, to your marriage.  But right up there though is striving to be better than you were yesterday because that is the key to all successful relationship in life (according to this momma anyway).  Surround yourself with people who rise to be better every day, it is infectious and it is impossible not to inspire you.

Ironically the things that Wendy admires in my marriage are the same qualities her and I share in a friendship.  Women are amazing and I am so grateful to have such beautiful women in my life.

Wendy and I walked to our cars together.  When she got to hers, she looked at me and said the night to her was so fantastic that she didn't even realize we were surrounded by people. It was as though we were encapsulated.  I loved that image.  And I agreed with her.

Cheers to all of the women who rise up each day!  Welcome home Miss Wendy.

PS - Safe travels Gompfs!